21st Century Dating
She says: I'm going to dinner now
Me: What a coincidence! I was thinking of the same thing!
Goodnight
San Algamal
Me: What a coincidence! I was thinking of the same thing!
I've typed this to a former friend of mine a year ago in the hope that I may dine with her as I was quite fond of her due to her way of thought and personality. Luckily for yours truly, I met up with her in Mcd to dine and conversate. She was happy and I was happier. It went smoothly and she opened up to me saying that, she too is different; she suffers from epilepsy and as a result, is infertile due to the medication involved. Her social life was also in turmoil as very few of her friends are ok being around when she's seizing.
We were a match made in heaven. Me, the smart and depressed business student with my ash-Grey hair and her, the fashion student with the rebellious but troubled spirit. I walked her home, comforting her in the end and telling her that she's never alone.
I've waited patiently to ask her out again and I did! I asked her to watch Deadpool 2. She, however, wasn't interested and said that "she has no money." I thought she wasn't comfortable going out a second time with me after a few weeks. She stopped saying hi in the end.
Ever since I was young, I've had troubles understanding social cues and behavior, in general. I think it was due to the war in Iraq and the inevitable isolation that came with being a young individual in a war-torn country. As a result, I often understood things in Black or White fashion, or took things too literally. It's best to say I was socially stiff due to lack of social activity before university life.
She was something else but she wasn't the only one; I've had a few dates here and there and it's always the same. Millennials displaying themselves in typical "swipe to right" fashion on phone screens but negating that with a profile description such as "here to get to know friends." An endless charade follows where you have to be someone you're not just to become that "friend." It's either that or people being shallow, dishonest, racist or just all about sex. Regardless, whatever shape modern-day dating is taking, take a moment to pray for humanity and desensitization of romance in our modern day society. Now, I'm not Insinuating the notice that all relationships are bad, I'm simply highlighting the fact that the social view or the form of what a relationship is and how it comes to be today is seriously fucked up. Maybe it was always like this but my cheerful self never noticed.
I was never a handsome guy; I would wear mismatched clothes and often look like your slightly-chubby slightly-nerdy little brother. My then and now best friends (Let's call them R1 and R2.) had a bet with me that once I managed to dress better and slim down a bit, I'll actually get attention from the society in a more-groovy and positive manner. Indeed, I became the fashionable/cool kid in the block. I've then been on a few dates and tinder matches.
But what really bothers me is winning the FUCKING LOTTERY (or a small, cheap and ill-managed one!) You might be pondering " why the fuck would anyone hate winning a lottery?) We, it's mainly due to two reasons:
A: My prize was a size S T-shirt and I had a slight dad bod (then) and I recently recovered it in a mighty attempt to eat as many kunafas and kebabs in ten days (oopsie!)
B: I already knew I'd win. The lady winked at me after giving me the number and told me to make sure I listen whenever the numbers get announced.
My point of this neatly-written, millennial-selfcentrical piece here is that people, society and relationships all require us to present ourselves in a certain manner as a rite of passage. It's a sad fact that everything is built upon pretenses and that you can win a lottery (unjustly) by looking and presenting yourself in a certain manner. Take for example Clubbing; I usually get rejected as soon as anyone asks "where are you from?" and find out I'm an Arab-Iraqi, I'm pretty much screwed. It's all about being someone else now (having a Six-pack is an added plus.) But then again when people run in circles, it's a very very mad world (yes, the Gary Jules version is quite awesome!)
We were a match made in heaven. Me, the smart and depressed business student with my ash-Grey hair and her, the fashion student with the rebellious but troubled spirit. I walked her home, comforting her in the end and telling her that she's never alone.
I've waited patiently to ask her out again and I did! I asked her to watch Deadpool 2. She, however, wasn't interested and said that "she has no money." I thought she wasn't comfortable going out a second time with me after a few weeks. She stopped saying hi in the end.
Ever since I was young, I've had troubles understanding social cues and behavior, in general. I think it was due to the war in Iraq and the inevitable isolation that came with being a young individual in a war-torn country. As a result, I often understood things in Black or White fashion, or took things too literally. It's best to say I was socially stiff due to lack of social activity before university life.
She was something else but she wasn't the only one; I've had a few dates here and there and it's always the same. Millennials displaying themselves in typical "swipe to right" fashion on phone screens but negating that with a profile description such as "here to get to know friends." An endless charade follows where you have to be someone you're not just to become that "friend." It's either that or people being shallow, dishonest, racist or just all about sex. Regardless, whatever shape modern-day dating is taking, take a moment to pray for humanity and desensitization of romance in our modern day society. Now, I'm not Insinuating the notice that all relationships are bad, I'm simply highlighting the fact that the social view or the form of what a relationship is and how it comes to be today is seriously fucked up. Maybe it was always like this but my cheerful self never noticed.
I was never a handsome guy; I would wear mismatched clothes and often look like your slightly-chubby slightly-nerdy little brother. My then and now best friends (Let's call them R1 and R2.) had a bet with me that once I managed to dress better and slim down a bit, I'll actually get attention from the society in a more-groovy and positive manner. Indeed, I became the fashionable/cool kid in the block. I've then been on a few dates and tinder matches.
But what really bothers me is winning the FUCKING LOTTERY (or a small, cheap and ill-managed one!) You might be pondering " why the fuck would anyone hate winning a lottery?) We, it's mainly due to two reasons:
A: My prize was a size S T-shirt and I had a slight dad bod (then) and I recently recovered it in a mighty attempt to eat as many kunafas and kebabs in ten days (oopsie!)
B: I already knew I'd win. The lady winked at me after giving me the number and told me to make sure I listen whenever the numbers get announced.
My point of this neatly-written, millennial-selfcentrical piece here is that people, society and relationships all require us to present ourselves in a certain manner as a rite of passage. It's a sad fact that everything is built upon pretenses and that you can win a lottery (unjustly) by looking and presenting yourself in a certain manner. Take for example Clubbing; I usually get rejected as soon as anyone asks "where are you from?" and find out I'm an Arab-Iraqi, I'm pretty much screwed. It's all about being someone else now (having a Six-pack is an added plus.) But then again when people run in circles, it's a very very mad world (yes, the Gary Jules version is quite awesome!)
Goodnight
San Algamal
Millennials are the ride or die of the future ��
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