Be on your way

 I've always believed that any type of relationship is purely based on effort. For me, effort signifies giving a shi*.

Imagine relationships as a scale; we all have that one friend who rarely communicates. How do we interpret the lack of communication? Is it that the friend no longer treasures the friendship? Is it that friend's habit to rarely communicate? Or is it time gnawing away at whatever remains of the friendship? 

The ties that bind people together are quite complex when it comes to interpretation.

Throughout time, I made it a personal goal of mine to ponder the question "why do some relationships, in all their natures, fail to stand the test of time and what makes some do?".

It wasn't until I listened to Joy Division's "Love will tear us apart" that I understood the flaw within my ever-lasting question.

The problem with people is that people change and time passes and changes everything as well. 

We can't always assume that those we meet will still be the same people years later. We can't assume that their values and interests will stay aligned. Sometimes, people take different roads and drift away.

It's a fact that people change. Most relationships and friendships aren't meant to last. The few that do is because, despite time and change, people still have mutual respect and alignment with each other. They still march with harmony.

It is a sad fact in life that nothing lasts and everything changes.

What can we do then?

Well, knowing that nothing lasts, acceptance is the first stage out of many items here...Once we accept that nothing lasts forever, one must simply enjoy the moment while it lasts. This question changed my concept about relationships long ago.

I remember my ex cheating after two and a half years and informing me that she's leaving me for someone else. Rather than confront her with my agony, I accepted that our roads had drifted apart. I believe my response was "thank you for the best two years of my life. I'm out now. Be careful out there". 

We can't stop people leaving. What we can do is understand that, sometimes, we can't stop people from drifting apart. Therefore, we must always support them and base our relationships based on what's good for their lives. As hard as this may be sometimes...

We have to enable people be on their way.